Having established the venue and date, we would have an initial meeting to sketch out some rough ideas for the ceremony and make sure we actually like each other: this is really important.

Next step is to confirm our agreement. I would send you a checklist of information to be woven into the ceremony and then produce a draft script.

Over the ensuing few weeks, we would refine our basic ideas, and exchange emails until we had a script that we're all happy with. A final meeting to OK the details and if possible a walk-though at the venue to make sure it all works in practice.

And finally….the day itself.

My basic fee for all of that is between £550 and £750, with a 25 per cent deposit payable on confirmation.

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